I think it’s safe to say that dating apps are a thing now. I know you can hear your parents or grandparents or any older person on public transportation claiming that back in his/her day, they met people face to face! What is this blasphemy where kids are meeting through phones and technology? Where is the genuine experience?!
Though I’m a supporter of being a real person and meeting real people (crazy, I know), it’s understandable that our generation is into the whole matchmaking via social media.
One of the main reasons people use dating apps to find others is the fact that they never got to meet new people anymore, especially after college. Upon hearing that, my ignorant little head shook as I scoffed at people; how can you NOT meet people? There are literally billions of people in the world — you’re bound to meet SOMEONE.
However, after college, I realized that the opportunities to stumble upon someone new were pretty slim. Sure, if you had a job, it would be a little easier, but if you worked in a small company, the chances were smaller, and work relationships aren’t exactly the best idea in the first place. Between funemployment and landing a job (I work in fashion aka all women so that unfortunately didn’t open any doors for me in the love department), I decided to try and take Tinder a little more seriously, as did a lot of my friends.
We’ve grown from Match.com to Tinder to a plethora of dating apps and sites all available to you on iOS and Android, and with more platforms come more opportunities to meet “the one”…
Or at least “the one for now.”
But the question still stands: is online dating reliable or is the person just DTF?
Personally, I used Tinder when it first came out, when the weird guys were actually genuinely weird guys you’d come across on ChatRoulette, not the cool weird guys who respond cleverly to get screenshot and written about on EliteDaily. My frat friend from UCLA enlightened me to the app, and I became a Tinder queen with no shame in my swipe game.
Tinder was new and weird, and it was not something I would find my future husband on, that’s for sure.
However, nowadays there are tons of apps such as Bumble and Coffee Meets Bagel, as well as even more niche audience oriented apps such as HighThere! (an app for those looking for a Cheech to their Chong) and Tindog (where everyone can find a bitch). Technology makes it easier for anyone to find someone, no matter their interests, and I’m all about that happy life and that easy life, ya feel me?
I surveyed a few friends via Facebook and asked for their opinions on online dating, and the consensus is that online dating…
Tons of people mentioned successful engagement/marriage stories attributed to Tinder and OKCupid, while others mentioned good dates that didn’t necessarily work out but were good experiences.
In conclusion, I’ve always felt that dating apps are what you put into them; if you’re going to be silly and make sexual jokes and show your buddies this hot girl who was down to send you nudes, well that’s probably all you’re going to get. If you’re someone looking for love and swiping with an open mind, you’ll probably find more suitors than you anticipated. And if you’re someone who is very critical of these apps and criticize every person you get matched with just to make a point that these apps are cultivating the hook up culture, news flash: you’re probably not going to find the (wo)man of your dreams with that attitude (nor does anyone want to swipe right on your judgmental ass).
When you’ve had the conversation with yourself and you know exactly what you’re looking for (whether it be a long term relationship or a hook up, yolo), download an app and start living as the person you want to be and looking for the person you want to be with.
Oh and remember, when in doubt,
Just log out.